#5 Good times don’t last and neither do bad times… 49 Life Lessons it took me 50 years to learn
Despite what this Life Lesson implies, it is not about the good times or the bad times. What I know 100% for certain is that, until the day comes when they are shoveling sand on my face, I am going to experience both. Life is like that. It is made up of a series of moments, days, weeks, months and years and in each of these time frames we are likely to have good times and bad times.
But here’s what I used to do. I used to miss a lot of the good times because I was busy worrying about the bad times. In fact I often found myself worrying about things that had not even happened (and quite often, did not happen).
Will it reeeeeally matter….?
#4 Spectacular Effort Equals Spectacular Reward – 49 Life Lessons it took me 50 years to learn
We’ve all been there.
In a blind moment of inspiration, motivation, determination, indignation or just sheer impulsiveness we have said (out loud) we will do something. Now this can take on many forms. From something simple like saying yes to an early morning training session or meet up or something much bigger, like a 12 week challenge or a ‘life-changing/bucket list’ goal. Sometimes it’s physical sometimes it’s not.
But in any case, we said YES! Yes, we would do it!
Now this isn’t an integrity lecture. Although I am a fan of integrity.
At the guts of this blog is a big lesson I learnt way back in 2009. A lesson that has stayed with me and that I use almost every day in some capacity. And it has never failed me!
#3 Time cannot be replaced… … 49 Life Lessons it took me 50 years to learn
Don’t you just hate ‘late people’! People who keep you waiting and waiting and waiting… When someone says they will be there at an agreed upon time and then 5, 10, 15 minutes later, you are still waiting! Of course, they will have a legitimate reason (maybe) for being late but that is still 15 minutes you could have spent doing other things. Now we all know that time cannot be replaced or refunded so essentially that person has just stolen 15 minutes of your life! What tha?!?
Now think about how much time has been ‘stolen’ from you by ‘late people’ in your lifetime! Perhaps hours, days, weeks, months, maybe even years!! Woah! Now that’s an entirely different way of looking at it. OK, but also consider you may BE a ‘time thief’ too!
We know though that time is infinite (well according to the ‘sciency’ dudes it is). But time is NOT infinite for us as individuals. We [you and me] only have a certain amount of time on this planet. But I know you already know this. In fact if we live until we are 80, that would be 29,220 days. So does it really matter if we steal or have stolen from us the odd few minutes? It’s not really life or death, is it?
#2 My thoughts create my reality… 49 Life Lessons it took me 50 years to learn
Have you ever wanted to punch a ‘positive’ person in the face? Or maybe blow up Facebook and Instagram and all of those fricking ‘inspirational’ quotes!
#inspiration #inspo #fitspo #fitspiration #whatssoright?!?
You let your ‘well meaning’ friend go to message bank. Hell, you let everyone go to message bank. And then you find the saddest songs you can on your play list, scroll Netflix for a ‘tear jerker’, buy a bottle of wine and a family size block of chocolate.
But only on the shit days, right? That’s when it would irritate the most!
One of the things I used to get stuck on was this.
#1 People just do what people just do … and so do I
(from) 49 Life Lessons it took me 50 years to learn
People just do what people just do … People just say what people just say … and so do I.
I’m not the boss of anyone and no one is the boss of me.
So why do peoples words and actions sometimes piss us off? Press our buttons. Irritate the shit out of us? Why do we get wound up? Why do we get upset? And why do we complain to anyone who is willing to listen (sometimes for days)?
Have you ever noticed yourself saying or thinking;
Inspiration often refers to something potent and powerful. Motivation can be sourced from it and action is often derived from it. A desire to do better and be better is why we seek it and a lack of it is often the scapegoat for mediocrity. The thing about inspiration is that there is no one thing, person, situation or moment that can define it accurately. We never know when we are going to be hit by it either. But when it comes, I believe it’s important to recognise it and make use of it.
As I celebrate and am grateful for five decades on this planet, it is a series of inspiring people, situations and moments that have driven me to learn, unlearn and relearn the following 49 Lessons for Life. Hopefully I will get to practice them for 50 more years!
Working on my daily practice of focusing on ‘what’s so right’ has changed my life. I have long since given up ‘looking for dinosaurs’. An important part of this practice is making sure that I give my mind plenty of good stuff to see. This can be an exceptionally difficult task when we open our Facebook! Now of course we could just delete the app but I confess, I love Facebook! I love connecting with my friends, seeing all the cool stuff they do and being able to chat to my family in one click!
But have you noticed how much ‘crap’ is in your newsfeed lately? It can completely overshadow the good stuff… if you let it! So to help you keep your focus on ‘what’s so right’ here are my three steps to ‘detox’ your newsfeed!
I am addicted to personal development. I love it. I was watching a presentation the other day and this tiny snippet (it was about living above and below the line) was the part that really slammed me between the eyeballs.
OK. This is my take on it.
29,220 days. That’s how many days we receive if we live until we’re 80 years of age. That’s also accounting for the extra day we get in a leap year. Which is not too bad when you think about. Let’s call it 30,000 days.
Now let’s consider that if you’re 40 years old, you can immediately halve that number. Wait, what?! Yep. You can cut that down to 15,000 days. Shit just got real! You see I am almost 50, and I suck at maths but it only took me a second to realise that my ‘bank of days’ is roughly only 11,000 days… AND COUNTING!
During my time as a business woman, fitness professional and magazine editor I have often been invited to speak at various events in my community. Which would potentially freak a lot of people out but me, I love it! I love to talk! In high school every report card I ever received mentioned my ‘verbal diarrhea’ condition. But it has served me well and it has allowed me to connect with some amazing people. I’ve spoken on all kinds of topics; fitness, health, wellness, how to get free publicity, breast cancer, mindset, marketing, business and the list goes on. But one of the most recent presentations I gave was based around Seven Principles that I have learned in my life.
“See the Innocence” ~ Richard Carlson PhD
In October 2007 while on a family holiday to the Gold Coast I read a book that completely set me onto a new path. It’s cliche to say but it changed my life. I have since given this book to many friends who, like me at the time, were at a point in their life where they just felt stuck. Sometimes when we are in this space, everything seems overwhelming. Does that resonate with you?
In this post, I’d like to paying tribute to Richard Carlson PhD. The Author of (amongst many other titles) “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff…. And it’s all small stuff”. This, by the way, according to Dr Carlson are both rules one and two for living in harmony. This is an extract from that book that I found especially helpful. I hope you do too.